Want Fewer Meltdowns? Try Softer Transitions

Does your child have a hard time with transitions? Do you struggle to get her to stop using a device or playing with toys when it is time to do something else? 

You are not alone. Transitions can be some of the most challenging aspects of raising a child with ADHD. Parents get frustrated because a hyperfocused child doesn’t come to the table when dinner is ready, do her homework or help out with chores around the house without lots of reminders.

If you are a slow-to-adapt parent, then you likely understand the child who struggles with transitions. But if you are (like I was) a quick-to-adapt parent who doesn’t have any trouble with transitions, then there can be a lot of conflict around getting your slow-to-adapt child to transition to the next activity.

What can you do in those moments? How can you help ease those transitions and hopefully reduce the conflict? Try using a ‘soft transition’:

STEP 1:

Sit down next to your child for a couple of minutes and simply watch her. 

STEP 2:

Begin asking questions about what she is doing. Be patient, it may be a few more minutes before she responds to you. Once you have started a dialog, you have created a bridge over to her world.

STEP 4:

Now you can start talking about coming to dinner or getting in the bathtub or simply stopping screen time.

STEP 5:

Enjoy the rest of your time together!

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